Although people are quite sensitive by nature, only a few of us actually “show it.” The reason why we usually prefer to keep things to ourselves is that we are scared that others may judge us or consider us weak. However, sometimes it is necessary to open up and be honest and direct about your struggles—you cannot get help from others unless you let them know that you need it, and that is usually the most difficult part, since it takes a lot of courage. Here are some tips on finding the courage to open up.
The first and perhaps most important step toward finding the courage you need to open up is to know what your emotion is. You will need to explain your feelings and emotions to the person you are opening up to, and it’s truly challenging to name the emotion that you feel deep inside. If you are able to do that, you will see that other people will find it a lot easier to understand and accept the things you have to say. We connect with others through emotions and language.
Another important thing you need to do is to spend more time with other people. Not only will you feel more familiar with them, but you will also learn their reactions, making it a lot easier to find common ground. People react differently to unusual or even shocking news, and when you spend more time with the one who is about to receive the news, you will create an emotional and mental connection with them, meaning that it will be slightly more difficult for them to react negatively.
People are not mind-readers, and we all know how complex the human mind and emotions can get. Not even those who have been close to you for decades are able to know what’s going on in your mind, and you should never expect them to be able to. Nobody knows for sure what you want, and only a few people are even curious to find out. Share your experiences, emotions, desires and plans with the other person, rather than waiting for them to guess what is happening deep inside you.
The final tip is to simply relax. It often happens that we create worst possible situations deep inside our minds—situations that remain there most of the time, while the reality is totally different. Make sure never try to assume the feelings, thoughts or emotions of other people—you may be terribly wrong. Let them speak for themselves before drawing any conclusions!
These are the most important tips to carefully consider before opening up to someone about a serious emotional matter.
| (81) ▲ on Finding the Courage to Open Up | ||
| Introduction | ●We seldom show that we are sensitive, because we don’t want to be (82) ▲ or considered weak. ●Open up and be honest and direct about your struggles, (83) ▲ you cannot get help from others. | |
| Tips | Know what you’re feeling | (84) ▲ the emotion that is deep inside you, and other people will find it a lot easier to understand and accept what you have to say. |
| Spend more time together | ●Spend more time with other people, and you will not only feel more (85) ▲ with them, but you will also learn their reactions and find common ground more easily. ●Connect with them emotionally and mentally, which helps them react positively. | |
| Never expect anyone to (86) ▲ your mind | No matter how (87) ▲ they are to you, they can never figure out what is happening in your mind. | |
| (88) ▲ | ●The reality is totally (89) ▲ from the worst situations you have imagined. ●It is unwise of you to assume others’ feelings, thoughts or emotions—let them speak for themselves, instead. | |
| Conclusion | You should take these tips into (90) ▲ consideration before opening up to someone. | |
81. Tips/Suggestions/Advice 82. judged 83. or/otherwise 84. Name
85. familiar 86. read 87. close 88. Relax 89. different 90. careful
Unique Traditions from UK
Boxing Day
This holiday, which is observed on Dec. 26, is a unique part of the Christmas season in Great Britain, as well as other Commonwealth nations. Boxing Day comes from a tradition that began in the Middle Ages more than 800 years ago. On this day, English churches would open their “alms box” and distribute its contents to needy members of the community. It was also a day for servants to celebrate the holidays with their families, having usually worked the day before. Today, Boxing Day is one of the twenty-two paid holidays received by most working Brits. Most people now spend Christmas Day with their family and reserve Boxing Day for exchanging gifts with friends. Although the government shuts down for the day, cinemas and theatres are open.
Queen’s Telegram
In the United States, if you make it to the ripe old age of 101 or 102, Willard Scott will wish you happy birthday on national television. In England, the queen herself will send her congratulations. This fairly new custom is known as “the Queen’s Telegram” and assures centenarians (people at least 100 years old) that they will receive a birthday telegram from the queen on their one-hundredth birthdays. The telegram is so longed for by some Brits that one 98-year-old woman was recently proved to have faked her age by two years just to receive the telegram.
High Tea
High tea was first enjoyed by the English working class during the 1700s. This tradition began as a practical attempt to hold off hunger pains between breakfast and supper, as eating just two daily meals was common at the time. It was called “high” tea because it was usually taken sitting on top of stools in a tea shop or standing at a counter or buffet table. Today, high tea has become a more elegant and popular tradition that is practiced in fine hotels and restaurants around the world.
Public Houses
Visiting a pub is one of Britain’s oldest forms of entertainment. The idea for the first public houses was brought to Britain thousands of years ago by the conquering Roman army. The first pubs served wine, but after the discovery of hops (啤酒花) in the 14th century, pubs began to serve mainly beer and ale (麦芽酒), as they do today.
British pubs operate between 11 a.m. and 11 p.m. every day except Sunday, when they must close at 10:30 p.m.
The drinking age in Britain is eighteen, but fourteen-year-olds may enter a pub unaccompanied if they order a meal.
Unique Traditions from UK
| Traditions | Time | Main Activities |
| Boxing Day | Observed on Dec. 26 during the 71 season | In the past, churches would open their “alms box”, with its contents 72 to needy people. Today it is reserved to 73 gifts with friends. |
| Queen’s Telegram | 74 by the Queen when one has his or her 100th birthday | People over 100 years old will receive a birthday telegram from the Queen herself on their birthday, enjoying the Queen’s 75 on them. |
| High Tea | Enjoyed and practiced between breakfast and supper | It 76 to be taken sitting in a tea shop, or standing at a counter. Today it’s becoming a tradition 77 in the hotels and restaurants worldwide. |
| Public Houses | Visited between 11 a.m. and 11 p.m. every day 78 Sunday | At the 79 only wine was served, but today they mainly serve beer and ale, but people 80 than eighteen are not allowed to drink. |
[1] Mistakes and errors are the disciplined true which we advance in life. Mistakes are great teachers. Success comes to those who are willing to risk making mistakes in the pursuit of their goals and aspirations, and who are able to learn from those mistakes. And in order to learn from mistakes you must be willing to pay for them.
[2] Mistakes can be enormously valuable, but when you try to get others to pay for your mistakes, then you deprive yourself of the opportunity to learn from them. When something goes wrong, it's usually very easy to find someone else to blame, but what does that really accomplish?
[3] Much of the value of mistakes comes from the fact that they demand a cost that must be paid. The person who learns the most from a mistake is the person who pays the price for that mistake.
[4] When you make a mistake, the only thing you want to do is ________it. You need to face it because you can learn a lot from it. The mistake has been made, so make the most of it. Pay the price, learn the lesson, and grow that much stronger.
[5] When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Remember the reason for it, and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The present is still in your power. Take full advantage of your mistakes to achieve your goals and aspirations.
76. What is the main idea of passage? (Please answer within 8 words)
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77. Pls fill in the blank in the 4th paragraph with proper words to complete the sentence. (no more than 4 words.)
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78. Complete the following statement with proper words. (no more than 4 words.)
Those who pursue are more likely to succeed, because they are willing to risk making mistakes.
79. What does the word “them” (line 2, paragraph 2) refer to? ( no more than 2 words.)
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80. What should you do when you make mistakes? (Please answer within 20 words.)
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Some people believe that greed and selfishness has become the basis of modern society, and we should return to the old traditions of family and community then we will have a better life. To what extent do you agree or disagree with the above opinion?
In this fast-paced world, many values are undergoing major changes. While people traditionally prioritize caring, sharing and generosity in life and work, modern people seem to be more self-absorbed and self-concerned.
Modern people act selfishly to survive the harsh competition of life. They say that it is a jungle out there. To survive, you have to fight with whatever means that come handy. Obviously greedy and selfishness go perfectly well with such ideas. In a company, employees do everything they can to get better pay and higher position, even at the cost of colleagues. We are in any way advocating any selfish conduct. It is just that people are pressured to act in a certain way due to outside influences.
In spite of common practice, it is hard to conclude that modern society is built on greed and selfishness, both of which are not newly invented vocabulary. In ancient times people also did greedy and selfish things though such behaviors were more condemned then. But we can not ignore the fact that people in the past lived a relatively more isolated life and faced less pressure compared with their modern counterparts.
Are we happier to share with others and be generous to them? There is no fixed answer either. Some people take great pleasure helping and giving to others while others feel happy doing the opposite. But I personally think that people should not be too selfish. Caring for others can actually encourage the development of a mutually beneficial relationship.
In conclusion, modern people appear to be more self-centered than those in the past due to strong outside pressure. However, we should encourage people to know the importance of being caring and generous and to build a mutually beneficial relationship with others.
Are Modern People Becoming More Selfish?
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| 71 are changing | In the past people put caring, sharing and generosity in the first 72 . |
| Nowadays, people seem to be more 73 about themselves. | |
| 74 are changing too. | People in the past appeared to be modest and self-effacing(谦让的). |
| People may strive to achieve their own 75 at the price of their coworkers. | |
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| 76 for the changes in author’s eyes | Fierce 77 and great 78 on modern people may be responsible for the changes. |
| The author’s 79 towards topic | A relationship which can 80 two sides should be established. |