You often find somebody who works around you complaining all the time, don't you? 31 About 70% of Americans say being around nonstop complainers sometimes has a bad influence on them. Luckily, here are 4 tips to help form positive patterns.
1.Selfawareness
When a negative thought pops into your mind, immediately correct it. Instead of telling yourself "That's a nice shirt, but I can't afford it", change the message to "That will look great with my black pants when I can afford it". 32
Of course, everyone complains sometimes. But the less frequently you complain, the better you will feel.
2.Distance yourself
33 Excuse yourself and go somewhere quiet,somewhere outdoors in the fresh air. Think of something pleasant before returning. You have to take this seriously because negative people can and will pull you into the quicksand (难以摆脱的困境).
3.Don't try to change complainers
If you find yourself trapped in a group of complainers in a meeting or at a social event, simply choose silence. Let their words bounce off you while you think of something else. Attempting to stop the complaining can make you a target. 34 If someone says, "I hate Mondays;weekends are too short," try to think, " I'm glad I rested over the weekend, so I'm ready to make some improvement on that big project."
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When someone is shouting at you angrily,throw the responsibility back at them by asking, "So what do you intend to do about it?" In most cases, complainers don't really want a solution. They just want to speak them out. If you make them aware that they themselves have to find the solutions, they will leave you alone and find someone else to complain to. If so,you will be happy.
A.Find solutions
B.Change the responsibility
C.You have got a lot of company.
D.By doing this, it will lead to positive behavior.
E.But you can redirect the discussion in your own mind.
F.Whenever possible, escape from negative conversations.
G.You will never know what they are going to talk about.
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—Good afternoon. My name is Peter. I’m the general manager of the personnel department. I’ll be interviewing you. Please sit down.
— 61 , Peter. My name’s Jon. Jon Smash.
—Well, Jon, it’s a pleasure to meet you. 62 .
—I’ve been a manager at Nike for over three years. I won manager of the year award two years ago, and I got promoted last August.
—OK. Tell me about yourself…your personality.
— 63 . I think before I act, and if something goes wrong in our company I always remain calm. I never scream at my employees. And I’ve never lost my temper.
— 64 ?
—I think I’m good at solving problems. 65 . I also love challenges. I work well under pressure. When my boss pushes me to finish a project early I always get it done and never complain.
—Jon, you seem like a very good manager. I like your ambition. You’re very confident and motivated. We like that here at Microsoft. Well, our interview is over……
A. I’m glad it’s you who will offer me the opportunity to get the job B. I enjoy approaching problems directly C. Nice to meet you D. What are your strengths E. I owe my success to my employees F. Tell me about your work experience G. I think I’m very level-headed |
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