When my parents were alive, they weren’t well off financially. Yet they helped their two older daughters time after time. My sisters paid Mom and Dad back part of the time, but when Daddy passed away, his cash journal showed debts due from several of his children. I was not among them. I seldom borrowed money and when I did, at the beginning I set a repayment plan and stuck to it. It was a matter of pride for me.
When you think that I was raised in the same household with my brothers and sisters and had the same parents, it is hard to figure out why I was the only one who couldn’t stand to owe them — or anyone — money. Maybe it’s because I watched my parents struggle to help my older sisters out when they were in financial difficulties themselves. Maybe it’s because of that reason, I was just too proud to depend on anyone else.
These days, I am the one of those other people turn to for help when they need it. Just as I can’t stand to owe other people, I can’t stand to say no to anyone who presents a credible case of need. So I am what is called an"enabler".
Being an enabler is an insidious (隐伏的) disorder. It starts simply enough when you help someone with an extraordinary expense created by an unusual event. Then when people find out you will provide aid, they ask you more and more and you — being a nice person — just keep giving. It’s a hard cycle to break and I personally have no clue how to escape.
I’m not angry. I’m not holding a grudge. I don’t try to tell my children or my sisters how to run their lives because they ask me for money. Yet I would be so proud of all of them if they were to make more of an effort to handle things themselves, perhaps by doing some financial planning — like planning not to spend money they don’t have!
And I don’t see why they can’t do this. After all, I’m not lassoing them and forcing them to take my money. I’m just not good at saying"no". So I ask you, what can I do when so many people around me have no shame in owing others money?
On the other hand, I am doing them a greatdisserviceby my"kindness". I remember as a child how my father always said these two things,"If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again,"and"I can’t get stuck in the fence. I’ll try to pull it down."As an enabler, I have prevented my children from learning to keep trying instead of turning to me for help. Yes, they could change their ways and learn to get along on their own, but why would they do that? Who among us would choose to be out of a car because we can’t afford to fix it when Mom will supply the money to get it fixed?
Yes, I am an enabler; and I am wronging my children by enabling them to be less than self-sufficient. I have known this for a long time but I still can’t say no.
55.The author will feel proud when .
A.her children make progress at school
B.she can help her children or her sisters
C.she can pay back the money she owed
D.her children learn to fix a car with her help
56.Why couldn’t the author stand to owe her parents’ money?
A.She thought it would be embarrassing to seek help from the old.
B.She wanted to show she was more successful than her sisters.
C.She didn’t establish a good relationship with her parents.
D.She couldn’t bear her parents’ difficult state in finance.
57.The underlined word"disservice"is closest in meaning to" ".
A.favor B.harm C.hope D.encouragement
58.What prevents the children from changing their ways and getting along on their own?
A.Their mother’s kind action.
B.Their financial state.
C.Their lack of creativity and courage.
D.Their traditional culture.
59.What should the author do when others seek help from her?
A.Just refuse them by saying"no".
B.Try to tell them how to run their lives.
C.Remind them to pay back her money in time.
D.Try her best to provide them with necessary help.
60.In which column of a newspaper can we find this passage?
A.Finance. B.Education. C.Culture. D.Life.
CDBABD
人生感悟类阅读的概念:
生活感悟类的文章就是指能给人心灵以启迪,使人从中受到教育的文章。这类文章的体裁可以是记叙文,如生活中一些感人故事或情感故事,有点类似心灵鸡汤一样的短文。
生活感悟类阅读解题指导:
一、文章特点:
生活感悟类的文章就是指能给人心灵以启迪,使人从中受到教育的文章。这类文章的体裁可以是记叙文,如生活中一些感人故事或情感故事,有点类似心灵鸡汤一样的短文。有时故事的结尾会有一句“点睛之笔”,点出全文的中心思想,就像《伊索寓言》里的寓言一样。还可能是夹叙夹议的哲理散文或生活随笔。散文随笔通常会阐述一种朴素易懂,耳熟能详的人生道理或宝贵品质。文章的结构和议论文类似,一般是总分总或总分结构。每段首句或尾句为主题句(论点),其它句子围绕主题展开论述(论据),论证方法多种多样,或举例,或引用名言,或正反对照等。
二、解题技巧:
针对生活感悟类文章的特点,做这类文章的完形填空时,要特别注意以下几点:
1、重点理解全文的首句。如果是记叙文,找出when,where,who,what等基本要素。如果是散文随笔,充分理解文章的中心句—全文的主题。
2、阅读全文的结尾段或结尾句,有助于理解文章所阐述或蕴含的哲理、感悟或忠告等。
3、调动自己的背景知识和情感。这类文章不会讲大道理也不会涉及到一些很专业的知识技术领域,而是谈一些小事和简单的道理,所以如果读者能和作者产生感情上的共鸣,读者会更好地把握作者的意图态度,从而提高做题的准确度。因此,考生在平时要做一个有心人,即用心去感悟生活中发生的小事,思考人生的一些基本道理,多阅读一些短小精悍的美文,多写写自己的心情故事和对生活学习的感悟。只有平时多用心,做题时才能调动自己的背景知识和情感。
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A. Take full responsibility B. Slow down your pace C. Find an advisor D. Cherish people around you E. Find your deepest values F. Be willing to change |
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You need to change in order to grow. Changing your life is a continuous process. It never ends. The moment you stop changing, you stop growing. Here are some tips that may help to change your life:
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To change your life, you need time to think and reflect. If you are always busy, you won’t have the time to think about your life, let alone taking action to change it. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast ― you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.
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It’s your life; nobody can change it but you. If you aren’t willing to change, then nothing in this world can make you do so. To build the willingness to change, first you should realize that your life can be better than it is now. No matter how good your life is, it can always be improved. On the other hand, don’t feel hopeless if your life doesn’t seem good right now. You can always change your life for the better.
Don’t blame other people for the bad things that happen in your life. Don’t blame your family, friends, boss, or the economy. Whether your life goes up or down depends on you and you alone. Stephen Covey once said, “We immediately become more effective when we decide to change ourselves rather than asking things to change for us.”
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Deep down in your heart, there are some principles that you know is true. Take the time to find them. What do you think is the most valuable thing in life? What principles do you think you must follow to live a fulfilling life? These are the values that you need to align yourself with. Find them and remind yourself constantly about them.
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Not only can this person give you advice on what to do in certain situations, he can also warn you about possible pitfalls in your path. Without a mentor, most likely you will have to learn many lessons the hard way. Having a mentor will save you serious amount of time.