How to rebuild trust after it’s broken
Maybe your partner cheated on you, your best friend stabbed you in the back, or your co-worker took credit for your idea. On the other hand, maybe you lied to your sweetheart, stole the guy or girl your friend had an eye on, or failed to help a co-worker or classmate on an important project. Trust between two people means that they can be vulnerable(易受攻击的) with each other. 36 Here are what you need to do from both angles.
1. Coming clean does work. If you are the one who betrayed someone else, you need to come clean. In interpersonal relationships, it’s especially important to tell the truth when you would benefit a lie. 37
2. Being defensive or casual about the problem never works. There must be a sincere effort to work out the issues, or the wall will never come down. 38 Be patient with the other person, but be persistent in your own efforts.
3. 39 Trust between two people means that you have to be dependable and consistent over a long period of time. 40 If you can’t be honest in the future, or cannot do all that you promise to do, the person you betrayed will be unable to accept that you are worthy of being trusted again.
A. Talking about what made you do it.
B. Keep your word going forward.
C. You should avoid making the same mistake at all costs.
D. Therefore, losing trust is two-way street, and so is rebuilding it.
E. Denial will only make the other party’s distrust run deeper, especially if the truth is already clear.
F. You should make a promise to do better, but a promise or apology alone will only restore trust short-term.
G. The angrier you are, the less you are able to hear what the aggrieved one has to say, and the worse what they feel will get.
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—Good afternoon. My name is Peter. I’m the general manager of the personnel department. I’ll be interviewing you. Please sit down.
— 61 , Peter. My name’s Jon. Jon Smash.
—Well, Jon, it’s a pleasure to meet you. 62 .
—I’ve been a manager at Nike for over three years. I won manager of the year award two years ago, and I got promoted last August.
—OK. Tell me about yourself…your personality.
— 63 . I think before I act, and if something goes wrong in our company I always remain calm. I never scream at my employees. And I’ve never lost my temper.
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—I think I’m good at solving problems. 65 . I also love challenges. I work well under pressure. When my boss pushes me to finish a project early I always get it done and never complain.
—Jon, you seem like a very good manager. I like your ambition. You’re very confident and motivated. We like that here at Microsoft. Well, our interview is over……
A. I’m glad it’s you who will offer me the opportunity to get the job B. I enjoy approaching problems directly C. Nice to meet you D. What are your strengths E. I owe my success to my employees F. Tell me about your work experience G. I think I’m very level-headed |
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